Unconditional Love vs. Works

I've been thinking a lot about unconditional love these days. Joyce Meyer talks about how God loves us unconditionally in spite of our imperfect lives and quotes this verse: "But God shows and clearly proves His [own] love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for us" -Romans 5:8 (amplified version). God doesn't love us because of our works; it doesn't matter how much we do or how much we give. We can't buy God's love. He loves us just because we are His creation! And He sent His Son to die for our sins, while we were yet sinners, BECAUSE He loves us. Now that is unconditional love. If we could learn to receive His love, our lives would be so much better.



So that has me thinking ... and I've come to the conclusion that I have not always shown unconditional love to our girls. Honestly, we have loved our girls more than we ever thought we could love anyone, but I wonder if we haven't always made that clear. Once they started school, good grades became so important. The journey wasn't important, just the final report. I think we set them up to think life is all about works and performance. It doesn't help that Ken and I tend to be perfectionsists and workaholics; we have modeled a "works" mentality. And me, in particular, am a bit of a people-pleaser. So now, I'm wondering how we could have communicated high expectations without twisting the message that somehow our love was based on performance. I TELL them that I love them each and every day but have I SHOWN them with my actions?





I want to remedy this situation, if at all possible. I want to communicate my love for our girls just because they are our children! I am beginning to be more intentional in spending time with them and really listening, showing that I am interested in what they have to say, making plans with them, and of course, giving them hugs and kisses. Our girls will be leaving home in the next year or two, so it's important to do this now, on purpose.

Happy Birthday, Marie!

Our firstborn turns 25 years old today! I can't believe how time has passed so quickly. Marie was our "sweet pea," so cute and adorable. We loved those early years when both girls were toddling around the house. Now, Marie is a beautiful young woman who God continues to mold into the person He knows she is destined to be. We love you, Marie, and are so blessed by you!

(Marie and Brad off to spend the day at Disneyland.)

Hasta luego, Cabo!

Ken and I went to Cabo San Lucas over Spring Break and had the most amazing time. The weather was a warm 86 degrees and the view from our hotel was gorgeous. We stayed at the Hilton Los Cabos and received the royal treatment. Bravely, we ventured to the Centro--the central marketplace in Cabo where you can find the marina offering glass-bottom boat rides, restaurants of all types, and a variety of upscale stores along with many little shops. Thanks to some helpful amigos, we figured out how to take the city bus there and back!

Our trip was so relaxing and peaceful that we hope to go back next year...

(This picture is the view from our favorite spot overlooking the infinity pool and the Sea of Cortez.)